Do you really know what you want and are you prepared to do whatever it takes to achieve it?I have been watching a TV program called the “Seven Year Switch”. When I saw it advertised I thought it would be a group of youngsters like “Love Island” not my cup of tea, however I happened to see the second episode by chance and realised it was a serious attempt to sort out failing partnerships. I was hooked.By pairing with another couple each person was able to realise their faults with the help of their temporary new partner, who was able to see the situation from a new perspective. This encouraged dialog. With the result that three out of the four couples decided they would work on their differences and make their relationships work. During this period they were helped by two councellors.
This got me thinking about the situation many couples find themselves in. Swamped by day-to-day living it is east to lose sight of what you really want, and how to support the fulfilment of dreams for yourself and other family members.So often nobody talks about irritations, desires or hurt feelings they lie buried to resurface periodically as harsh words and rows. We seem to have lost the knack of really communicating our wants needs, hopes and desires in a caring way. Anger is at the forefront of relationships everyone seems stressed, selfishness and thoughtfulness seem to have taken over.Even world leaders like Donald Trump and Boris Johnson are known for their thoughtless tweets and comments. Diplomacy appear to have gone out of the window!Road rage is rife instead of courtesy and old-fashioned good manners. Youngsters swear and run a mock in schools and in the streets upsetting residents, besides threatening staff, in schools and hospital and even the fire brigade are under attack in some areas. Why is there such a breakdown in good family values and disciplined.These wayward youngsters, often knife carrying, gang members, don’t seem to know what they really want out of life, or have the desire to live a law-abiding existence. They follow the wrong role models and rampage for want of something better to do.
Sometimes businesses lose track of their direction and without changing strategies can haemorrhage great losses.So to get what you want out of your relationships, your work or business, your hobby or life generally stop and think and then communicate with those around you, and listen to their needs too. Learn to compromise and you will be in a happier place.I am a great fan of positive attitude books and the power of the mind for turning things around and achieving goals. These can be particularly helpful if you are going through a rough patch. In essence they all say – you are the captain of your ship steer it in the direction you want to find yourself or you can end up on the rocks!